Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.
– Brené Brown
Spring is a time to celebrate rebirth and renewal. Seeds planted last fall are popping up through the rich, dark soil and new life is emerging. We’re being called to release what no longer serves us to make room for a fresh start. We just witnessed a full moon in Libra urging us to strike a balance between meeting our personal needs and attending to the needs of others. In January, I vowed to set healthier boundaries and admit that this still a work in progress. I’m a nurturer with a human design to “rescue” people. While this is a wonderful gift, I’ve learned that too much of a good thing can leave me feeling depleted and a little resentful. When this happens, I find myself vibrating on a much lower frequency than where I want to be so I give myself a swift kick in the pants to mindfully taking actions for my highest good.
As an Intuitive Coach, Empath, & Energy Worker, I teach others that creating boundaries is very empowering and is, in fact, essential for our overall well-being. When we set and manage expectations and limits for ourselves, we protect our own self-esteem, maintain self-respect, and learn to separate our thoughts/feelings from others. Nobody wants his/her/their boundaries violated by others. Yet we’ve all experienced times when we’ve allowed lines to be crossed. We need to learn to differentiate between where our own values start and stop and where another’s begin.
It can be tricky to maintain boundaries especially with those closest to us. Even though we’re all separate beings, we can get lost in our connectedness with one another and the lines get blurry. Most struggle to maintain healthy boundaries out of fear of the response we’ll get from someone we care about, or out of guilt for not doing enough for that person. Even though it can go against our nature to put our own needs first, I encourage you to give yourself permission to put some self-preservation guidelines in place. Remember, a healthy relationship allows you the space to be yourself and to maintain your personal integrity. Most people will respect your boundaries when you explain what they are and will expect you to do the same for them. I know from experience that when I consciously honor my boundaries, I live a more balanced life and enjoy more productive and loving relationships and you can too.
High Vibes and Grateful Heart, XO, Jenn
