“Change your thoughts, and the brain will follow.”
How are those New Year’s Intentions set back in January going for you? Chances are not everything has unfolded exactly the way you had planned. Have you experienced a wave of self-doubt? Has your fear stopped you from moving forward? Have you ever felt like a fraud in your own life? Let’s be honest. Who has not been kept awake at night ruminating over thoughts like…
Who am I to think that I can do this? What will people think? What if I fail? I can’t, I can’t, I can’t!
If this experience resonates, you may be suffering from Impostor Syndrome and, when this syndrome hits, it can be debilitating! Imposter Syndrome is a pattern of thinking that makes us doubt our accomplishments and feel an overwhelming fear of being exposed as a fraud. It surfaces as that nagging feeling that you’re not good enough, that you don’t belong, that you don’t deserve to succeed, that you have nothing of value to share. I’m here to tell you that those feelings are indeed “all in your head”. Did you know that it’s very common for high-achieving women to experience Imposter Syndrome and spend time explaining away their successes as not being theirs to own? What is that even about?!
I believe in being completely transparent and the truth is that I have spent a better part of my life being stuck in limiting belief patterns that I was unworthy. It did not matter that I had earned the title of a successful entrepreneur who founded businesses and built a name for myself as an effective leader and corporate executive. At a soul level, I felt like a fraud. I spent years waiting for the ball to drop and for someone to accuse me of not earning any of it. Subconscious stories in my head made it much more comfortable for me to focus my energy on shedding light on everyone else’s achievements, rather than my own contributions. I now understand that my hesitation was based on fear of how I would be received when I put myself out there.
When we suffer the pains of self-doubt, we often feel as though we’re the only ones who have ever felt that way. That is simply not true. Even the most successful, powerful, and accomplished women (and men) have felt unsure of themselves at one point or another in their lives. Some very high profile women like Tina Fey, Maya Angelou and even the former first lady, Michelle Obama, have shared truths about their own insecurities. Learning to break down the blocks and shift my mindset changed my life and led me to coaching other women going through similar transitions in life.
You are not alone and yes you can do this! You can rewrite the script in your head. Take a new step forward and don’t fall victim to that negative self-talk. There are practical ways to overcome these insecurities and they begin by recognizing your true value. Our thoughts, words and the language we use have real manifesting power. I encourage you to start mindfully shifting what you think and speak with the intention of boosting your own self-confidence.
1. Make a list of your qualifications. Then look at the evidence that you do have what it takes.
2. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. You are your own unique flavor and flair.
3. Own your accomplishments and believe that you have earned every single one of them.
4. Repeat after me… I am awesome! I’m here to share my gifts with the world. I am worthy.
5. Visualize your success like you are already there and feel gratitude for the journey.
Now is the time to set things into motion. Shine your own beautiful light into the world.
High Vibes + Grateful Heart !