We are the sum of all people we have ever met; you change the tribe and the tribe changes you.
— Dirk Wittenborn
A tribe is generally defined as a community of people linked together by family ties, ethnicity, and/or religion, however, tribes are not limited to people who are related. They can be a group of people who share the same beliefs and ideologies or shared missions. I believe that women, in particular, need a tribe of other women to feel fully supported which is why I created the SheBreathes Balance Collaborative in 2016.
Long before the over-scheduled work week and the isolating days of social media, women lived in cultures where they supported one another in all aspects of life. Together they raised and protected children, foraged for food, and helped each other through life’s daily challenges. As humans and technology evolved, women became more independent and the time previously dedicated to togetherness became less important – or so it seemed.
But I believe that our true nature is one of collectivism. We need one another. Studies show that women are physically hard-wired to connect with each other. In times of stress or need, women release oxytocin, a hormone that compels one to nurture and bond. These bonds result in positive mental, physical, and emotional well-being and restore women to their true nature. But in today’s disconnected and demanding world, how does one find a tribe?
Here are some suggestions on where to start:
1. Look for people with common interests and values. Seek out like-minded women who share your interests and will expand your universe. Take a class, join a wellness studio, attend local meet-up groups and start making meaningful connections.
2. Identify your wants and needs. Ask yourself, “What personal need do I want to fulfill?” Be truthful in your answer, and leave self-doubt and judgment at the door. Follow your heart and the universe will attract compatible individuals.
3. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Share your time with women that have your best interest at heart. Be part of a group that celebrates one another’s successes, but also helps each other weather the storms
4. Be yourself. It’s easy to confuse what we think we like, with what we actually like. Different people have different interests, values, or goals. Be authentic and stay true to your beliefs, and your vibe will attract your tribe.
5. Trust your instincts. Finding your tribe may feel scary but trust yourself. Your heart and mind will when know you’ve made that special connection and found your soul-sisters.
I know from experience with our SheBreathes Balance Community that, when women come together with a shared intention, magic unfolds! When we create a supportive environment to laugh, explore, and share genuine experiences, we strengthen our community and raise the collective vibration of our world. Your tribe is waiting for you here. Can’t wait for you to join us!
High Vibes + Grateful Heart ! XO, Jenn